Category Archives: Therapy

Marriage and Couples Counseling

Couples therapy today is more accepted than ever before. Making decisions about your long term relationship or marriage without the benefit of marital therapy is now widely seen as somehow thoughtless or unwise. Many couples now make a last-ditch effort to resolve their issues by seeing a Marriage and Family Therapists, or LMFT.

Most models of therapy focus mostly on individual work and most therapists are trained with the idea of treating one person, not the complexities that a couple brings. Not withstanding this fact, about 70 percent of therapists work with couples.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist have couples training and experience that individual therapists often lack. Thus the popularity in the last decade of marriage therapy, and having support and a better understanding of issues that develop in relationships.

NWA Marriage and Family Therapy works with many couples and is here to serve you explore your relationship issues. Please call 479-225-0055 to ask any questions or to make an appointment, and please leave a voice mail. Thank you.

Possible Signs Your Family of Origin is Impacting Your Life

Are you noticing that you are having trouble with anger, sadness or are afraid? That your relationships seems to repeat unhealthy patterns? That you maybe struggling with addiction issues? Maybe you also have trust issues in relationships? Do you feel an over all sense of unworthiness?

These might be sings that you are struggling with family origin issues, that have been going unresolved and or unnoticed, that are impacting your life and need some work so you can heal and move forward.

Consider my video conference therapy offering a sliding scale fee and convenient times. I have served the NWA area for almost a decade. Now with virtual secure conferencing I can serve any clients in Arkansas, that are compatible to my scope of practice.

I appreciate your consideration and I hope every one stays safe.

Call me at 479-225-0055 and leave a voice message to see if I can help you with your needs so we can set up a virtual appointment.

NWA Telehealth, Online Counseling, Virtual Therapy

Telehealth, Online Counseling, Virtual Therapy, there are many names that exists for technologically assisted counseling. With our health becoming our most valuable resource, and our lives becoming more difficult with the COVI19, making your mental health a priority can be a challenge. Many business are now closing face to face contact in Arkansas and in other states. This however does not mean that therapy services are not available. On line counseling is now available from NWA Marriage Family Therapy and has been for the last few weeks.

Whether you are a new stay at home parent, or a new working from home professional feeling a bit cooped up, with too many unknows creating stress in this quickly changing life telehealth is available.

Before you may have lived in an area where counseling access is limited. Now due to COVID19 health professionals have been allowed to expand their areas of practice to provide more people on line services, even if they do not live near their physical offices. Distance from my actual office or inability to travel, should not be a barrier to putting your mental health first.

With new changes in the healthcare regulations and availability of technology like your smart telephone or computer, I am offering virtual therapy services to the NWA Arkansas area as well as other places in Arkansas and and Missouri currently.

This could mean:

  • Checking in with me at the click of a button, with no travel.
  • Easy on line payments.
  • Finding a time that works for both you and your schedule.

Thank you and feel free to call NWA Marriage & Family Therapy at 479-225-0055 and leave a message for Carmen to set up a teletherapy online virtual appointment.

COVID-19, CDC guidelines, Online and Telephone Counseling Available

Hope everyone is paying attention to the COVID-19 situation. Making the necessary adaptations to get through this is unusual time is important.

Asking clients to please reschedule their appointments if the do not feel well, even if its last minute. If you have been traveling please self quarantine for 14 days upon your return as recommended by the CDC. See the CDC link below for information and protocols for COVID-19.

In short term I have been rerouting clients through a side door thus avoiding any lobby contact. Allowing 6 feet of space between myself and my clients. No longer shaking hands. Ventilating office, wiping down doorknobs, telephones, tables and anything touched, by wiping down surfaces after use. Having hand sanitizer and tissue readily available at the work place as well. Small changes we can all do.

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/about/index.html

Make common sense changes and getting the most current information, so everyone can stay as safe as possible, These small changes have been helpful to get by up to now.

For the duration of this epidemic, NWA Marriage and Family Therapy will be to transitioning my current office clients and any future new ones to an online video format or telephone depending on the clients preference and technological abilities within the next few days.

This change will not be forever, since face to face counseling is still the gold standard for counseling, in my opinion. This on line/telephone format will just be for the duration of this epidemic. Remember, this too shall pass.

I appreciate your cooperation to this temporary on line transition to let us all get though this ordeal safely. NWA Marriage and Family Therapy will now be exclusively through on line or telephone sessions. I am licensed by the State of Arkansas to use any and all types of Technologically Assisted therapy. I appreciate your patience during this time in stream lining this process.

Perseverance, Prudence, Patience.

Thank you all. Please call NWA Marriage & Family Therapy for 479-225-0055 for on line appointment and leave voice message.

Relationships are important

Relationships are important in your life.

If the relationships in your life are healthy they can allow you to feel good about your self, be more creative, feel loved and have an over all sense of wellness from day to day that actually makes for better over all health. Making an investment in your relationship is worthwhile.

Please call NWA Marriage and Family Therapy at 479-225-0055. Offices in Fayetteville and Bella Vista, with hours that accommodate any schedule. I would be happy to answer your questions. Serving, the Fayetteville, Springdale, Centerton, Rogers, Bentonville, Bella Vista areas.

NWA Marriage & Family Therapy, Google and the Self Diagnosis

Welcome to the age of Google and information.  I see more clients  more confused now about their situations with all the information they research or read in an  attempt to apply everything to themselves, in hopes of a quick resolve.  Information sometimes applied correctly and successfully and sometimes applied very inaccurately and excessively with unexpected consequences, or not with the desired results

Younger folks are much more willing to rely and use the internet to self diagnose or treat others.   If its accurate and effective, you might save some money but since the biggest predictor of any one getting better is the relationship a client forms with their therapists,  all the information in the world can not substitute face to face  sessions with a professional.   As well as  not all therapists follow the medical model, even thought all insurance companies do, and that is the bulk of what most people find.

Even experts in the mental health field can disagree as to the how’s and why’s of diagnostics and therapy or of the various mental health issues,  which are in a constant state of change and advancement as they are approached from many view points and with new advancements in the filed.

Often times clients self diagnose or diagnose others in their family with various personality disorders without ever having gone to see any one in the mental health field.  Google has made their decision for them.   Everything can sound so similar too, clients tell me.  Sometimes finding issues they did not know were even issuesSo you may consider trusting the face to face process of using a therapists in real time, hanging in there and seeing what happens, rather than amass  information that leads to many clients to feel less than or  more anxious.

Counseling and mental health therapy in one form  or another, through various healers  has been around since ancient times, even before the mental health field developed to what it is today.

Even thought face to face therapy is still considered the gold standard, its good to know that other options now exists.

Call 479-225-0055 to set an appointment for therapy in NWA.
NWA Marriage & Family Therapy to explore and understand your unique infidelity situation.

Thanks Carmen

 

Communication Problems

Often times one hears of couples saying they have “communication problems”.  Such a term is very often used and can be for the most part rather nebulous.   It can sometimes be a description for many other problems and or underlying issues in a relationship that have not been explored.

Couples for the most part to communicate very well either directly or indirectly their unhappiness, disappointment, resentment, contempt  or anger for each other.  Sometimes they punish each other by using avoidance, manipulation or intentional harm that they might be less than willing to talk about or admit to each other.  Often times in couples therapy the process of discovering the source of the discomfort  or negative patterns might take some time.

Many times the presenting problem of what the couple labels as the issue soon gets overridden by past wounds, hurts or betrayals that have been buried between them and unresolved. Often times these other issues come bubbling up.

Couples who have issues with “communication”  sometimes have been carrying these wounds or unfinished business in an indirect way for months or even years.  These unhealed wounds are often dragged along unresolved in the relationship and/or marriage longer than is healthy and this can impact their current relational health.

If left unresolved the couple may find that the misunderstanding can escalate very quickly and eventually destroy their relationship. Exploring these resentments, patterns of attachment styles and past wounds every so often sometimes can reconnect a couple.  Sometimes the help of a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists can be a good start for a couple to begin to tall openly and to reconnect once again and clear their communication channels.

Having trouble asking for help?

Wow that was an unexpected surprise!

So are you having trouble asking for help? Yup, there you are, and yes every is thing is just fine and thank you for asking.  You have it completely under control and in fact its not going to change any time soon, with out you reaching out and asking for help.

So how long to wait is the question? Days, months, years? Many people wait in anger or in silence till its sometimes too late, they end up loosing their job, relationship, opportunities, or their health.  Sometimes they wait till later in life to make changes when they could have made many years earlier.

So why is it so hard saying, I need help or I need support?   Or life threw me a real curve ball and I am having trouble adjusting?  Getting a new perspective or adding a few new tools or maybe just being listened to and sharing the story and understand it a different or new way?

That last bump in the road was a tough one and there you are, and it’s ok to ask for help to get back on your feet by going to counseling.  It is not a sign of weakness, but of strength to know when to ask for help.

Road is long ….you are moving right along, back on your feet now, carry on!!

 

Carmen’s Blog

CarmenThank you for stopping by and welcome to my blog. I hope to share useful information and experiences with you here.