Tag Archives: NWA Marriage & Family Therapy

Quote “3 Classes of People”

“There are three classes of people;

Those who see.

Those whos see, when they are shown.

Those who do not see”.

-Leonardo da Vinci (1452-1519)

This is an interesting quote to ponder. I was wondering how this could be applied to therapy in general. I would say all three types come to therapy at some point for different reasons. Those who see, may struggle with their knowingness, unable to feel others really understand, or they struggle when sharing their sights. Those who see, when they are shown often have many “aha” moments. Suddenly things begin to make sense to them in a way unlike before. And then there are those who do not see. They usually visit for a while, with no ability for insight or change. Non seers, are either unwilling or simply just unable to see. They for the most part, remain the same.

All three types vary in their own personal abilities and mingle equally in a variety of socioeconomic and ethnicity groups.

This quote offers yet another model for “seeing” the world.

Marriage and Couples Counseling

Couples therapy today is more accepted than ever before. Making decisions about your long term relationship or marriage without the benefit of marital therapy is now widely seen as somehow thoughtless or unwise. Many couples now make a last-ditch effort to resolve their issues by seeing a Marriage and Family Therapists, or LMFT.

Most models of therapy focus mostly on individual work and most therapists are trained with the idea of treating one person, not the complexities that a couple brings. Not withstanding this fact, about 70 percent of therapists work with couples.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist have couples training and experience that individual therapists often lack. Thus the popularity in the last decade of marriage therapy, and having support and a better understanding of issues that develop in relationships.

NWA Marriage and Family Therapy works with many couples and is here to serve you explore your relationship issues. Please call 479-225-0055 to ask any questions or to make an appointment, and please leave a voice mail. Thank you.

COVID-19, CDC guidelines, Online and Telephone Counseling Available

Hope everyone is paying attention to the COVID-19 situation. Making the necessary adaptations to get through this is unusual time is important.

Asking clients to please reschedule their appointments if the do not feel well, even if its last minute. If you have been traveling please self quarantine for 14 days upon your return as recommended by the CDC. See the CDC link below for information and protocols for COVID-19.

In short term I have been rerouting clients through a side door thus avoiding any lobby contact. Allowing 6 feet of space between myself and my clients. No longer shaking hands. Ventilating office, wiping down doorknobs, telephones, tables and anything touched, by wiping down surfaces after use. Having hand sanitizer and tissue readily available at the work place as well. Small changes we can all do.

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/about/index.html

Make common sense changes and getting the most current information, so everyone can stay as safe as possible, These small changes have been helpful to get by up to now.

For the duration of this epidemic, NWA Marriage and Family Therapy will be to transitioning my current office clients and any future new ones to an online video format or telephone depending on the clients preference and technological abilities within the next few days.

This change will not be forever, since face to face counseling is still the gold standard for counseling, in my opinion. This on line/telephone format will just be for the duration of this epidemic. Remember, this too shall pass.

I appreciate your cooperation to this temporary on line transition to let us all get though this ordeal safely. NWA Marriage and Family Therapy will now be exclusively through on line or telephone sessions. I am licensed by the State of Arkansas to use any and all types of Technologically Assisted therapy. I appreciate your patience during this time in stream lining this process.

Perseverance, Prudence, Patience.

Thank you all. Please call NWA Marriage & Family Therapy for 479-225-0055 for on line appointment and leave voice message.

Happy Valentine’s Day

This Valentines Day may you have much love and joy. A good relationship requires a good balance of trust and willingness. Expectations and boundaries made between both of you are clear and willingly followed.

Never forget to enjoy life and to be kind to others because life goes by fast. As a couple getting stuck at times is normal. A couples therapy appointment can explore your situation and allow you to be your best.

Please call 479-225-0055 and leave a message to set up and appointment or to get more information. Offering affordable sliding scale fee with flexible hours.

Thank You and Happy Valentine’s Day.

Relationships are important

Relationships are important in your life.

If the relationships in your life are healthy they can allow you to feel good about your self, be more creative, feel loved and have an over all sense of wellness from day to day that actually makes for better over all health. Making an investment in your relationship is worthwhile.

Please call NWA Marriage and Family Therapy at 479-225-0055. Offices in Fayetteville and Bella Vista, with hours that accommodate any schedule. I would be happy to answer your questions. Serving, the Fayetteville, Springdale, Centerton, Rogers, Bentonville, Bella Vista areas.

New Years Tribute, NWA Marriage & Family Therapy

 

Happy New Year’s 2019.  Reflecting on  2018 I was thinking some times it is good to take a look back  to remember those folks who lived and came before us.  Way before us.  We are here because they survived and had the strength to carry on even in very difficult circumstances, often facing situations that in their time seemed impossible to  overcome or endure.  We as people, are stronger and more resilient  than we believe to face our situations.

Please call NWA Marriage & Family Therapy @ 479-225-0055 to set an appointment for couples or individual counseling, at your convenience.  If you need my services, in Fayetteville, Bella Vista, or Ft. Smith.please leave a voice message and I will call back.

Thank you  and I look forward  to hearing from you.

Happy 2019 New Year’s to all as we head forward.

Carmen

Link

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TyJ-xLj9SEE

Counseling, Therapy in the age of AI – Erica

Watching this you tube video of Erica an AI android, was eye opening as far as the speed at which AI is progressing and developing as a technology.  These “machines” at first seemed clumsy and slow.  Now they seem realistic and life like, with a better command of  language and a good sense of humor, complete with facial gestures.  Now Erica has her own face book account, and channel.  Soon,  I think humans will have  the option as far as doing therapy with AI versus a human being. The military is already experimenting with  AI’s for therapy.  It is  an interesting choice.

Counseling Research 

The dilemma is research on counseling for the last forty years shows that its not about techniques or theories used by the therapists that determine outcomes of clients,, but the relationship developed with your clients in session that helps them heal.  Will AI’s be able to mimic this situation? Will the create new ways to do therapy?

Basically,  what makes us fundamentally human is how we connect with each other, and share our experience, with others.  These interactions are all part of that human experience, hat helps us heal., and connects us to each other.

We are watching how  the AI phenomenon is developing at great speed and with surprisingly little social discourse.  You tube clip, stated that one AI received citizenship and that we needed to make space for new entities,, not human, not machine.  The  android needed its own space and place.   Wondering how this will all play out ? Any way thought I would share this clip today about Erica.  Still want to talk with a human being?

NWA Marriage and  Family Therapy

I am a licensed  Counselor and a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist  available for individual or relationship therapy.,   Call for an appointment at  479-225-0055 and leave a voice message.  Evening and week end hours are available, serving  the North West Arkansas (NWA )area.

Thank you.

Carmen

“Get your facts first, ….”

“Get your facts first, ….then you can distort them as you please.”- Mark Twain

A great quote from the great social humorist and writer Mark Twain.  Using a little humor and not taking yourself too seriously at times can be a very powerful self preservation strategy for your mental health.

People get stuck in their attempts to prove themselves right and their partner wrong when fighting especially in couples situations. This in the end leads to resentments and feelings of being judged, undervalued, disrespected and over all unloved.

How about hanging up the usual factual argument by refusing to engage in the familiar back and forth dance that is so familiar?  Learn to manage your own frustration with a little calm humor and pick your battles wisely.   Please remember If you are in an emotionally manipulative or abusive relationship most general relationship strategies, may not apply.

I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Individual counselor, let me know if I can help  you or your couple  change your usual dance.

Call me at your convenience at 479-225-0055 and leave a voice message.  Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you.

Support, Self Improvement in Therapy

Finding Support for Self Improvement in a therapeutic environment is important.

How is support created in therapy?  Many times clients want to come in for one visit to make a variety of changes, often all at one time.  Self improvement happens at your own pace.  It’s usually best in small steps over the course  of your life time.

A variety of self empowering skill sets can be developed over s few sessions.  These skills will later be practiced  one your own with a continued focus on self improvement.   Having  a good  ongoing relationship with a therapist can pave the way to self sufficiency.   An occasional visit with some one who can support you can make your journey easier.

Support can come from many places, people, or even ideas and values.  Uncover who or what supports your integrity and authenticity,   One of my basic therapeutic goals is to self empower you.  Helping you to find a better way to support yourself emotionally as well as to enhance yourself to be your very best at this moment.

Call 479-225-0055 for a counseling appointment if you want help to self empower. NWA Marriage & Family Therapy is serving the Northwest Arkansas area and Ft. Smith.  Start transforming and self empowering your life.

The Four Way Test-Decision Making

 

 

“The Four Way Test” used by the Rotarian Club that I share below as a reprint of a simple four-part ethical guideline to use when exploring and making decisions in an ethical manner.  Credit to Web link below.

 

http://thefourwaytest.com/history-of-the-four-way-test/

The Four Way Test

1. Is it the TRUTH?

2. Is it FAIR to all Concerned?

3. Will it build GOODWILL and BETTER FRIENDSHIPS?

4. Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

 

Good therapeutic questions to use and explore through life when communicating with your spouse, couple, friends and or family.

Call NWA Marriage and Family Therapy at 479-225-0055 for an individual marital or couples appointment for affordable licensed therapy. Thanks!