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Power of Images, A Picture says a 1,000 words

That is an often used phrase.  So why is that? How is it that an image can be so powerful? Because we use only about ten percent of our brain power to process data, and to analyze. The subconscious mind and the other parts of our brain operate using emotions, pictures, stories, metaphors and images and connects and processes information at a much faster speed.  Some times this manifests as an intuitive sense in our “gut feeling” or a swelling of particular emotions after seeing an image or seeing some one.  Often times we are not paying attention to all of the images that we are exposed to on a daily basis that end up in our mind.

This is the reason that they say our first impressions of some one is so strong and lasting, and it is often made quickly with little verbal information mostly through the use of non verbal cues and often stays with us. Start noticing your first impression messages that you hear when you first meet some one.

Thus the importance of images and symbols to represent groups, cultures, religions, etc.  The media and advertisers understand the power of the image or logos better than most, when they use images and logos as marketing tools to reach us in ways we often do not even notice.  Researchers are using MRI scans to explore which areas of the brain light up when we are shown different images, in hopes of being able to recreating this stimulating effect in certain part of the brain in order to excite and influence our purchase selections.  There are many images that have become recognized throught history, like the swastika and the peace sign,  some are specific to a generation and or an epoch, some span a longer time period or are even reused or rebranded to have different meanings in later generations

The picture of this woman and her child came to symbolize the great depression and the hopeless poverty and difficult life people  were leading, it summed it all up in a moments glance and will for many years.

The image below even though it looks natural, was a staged for the picture, it was meant to emote  the joy of post war celebrations of having troops back home after WW ll.  A classic picture that has become a symbol for many people of that generation. Looking at this picture instantly brings back a flood of emotions  at a specific  time and place, without having to think logically or analyze any information for people of that era.  Many future generations can understand the message as well.  Images and pictures bring back eras, feelings and memories quickly inside us.

What images and pictures are important for you?

Drawing, and creating them even if we do not think we are artistic is nurturing and healing for us.  Having important images or pictures around us that can give us inspiration, solace, or strength, and as reminders of staying mindful of our intentions, aspirations, and beliefs while staying in our present moment experience are helpful reminders.

Use the power of images to help you set goals for your self and to know what it is that is important in your life.  Maybe use them to say sorry in a different, special and unique way.  If you are dating or in a relationship using images can be a fast way to connect and communicate with some one,  how you are feeling.  Share your feelings with pictures, artwork, symbols to those important ones in your life and connect in a fun way that can be uniquely yours.

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What is Sensate Focused Therapy and who can it help?

What is Sensate Focused Therapy and who can it help? Can I increase intimacy in my relationship?

Sensate Focused Therapy was introduced by the famous sex researchers Masters& Johnson, and it is a therapy often used by marriage and family therapists or sex therapists that are trained in this procedure to increase a couple’s ability to increase a couples feelings of intimacy, sense of safety and non verbal communication. It starts with increasing one’s own sense of self awareness through intentional touching and observations and eventually after some sessions (usually 6-10) the work will lead to more intimacy, unity, and better sense of  harmony between a couple.  It is a fairly simple and most couples find the practice enjoyable to do. The practice is done at home in private with your partner.  Each couple has unique needs that are taken into account and other interventions might be suggested as the work progresses.

This type of work is great to rekindle and reconnect intimacy in a couple, even for those who for whatever reason feel like “sex” might not be an option for them anymore.  Please call me if you have any questions about Sensate Focused Therapy or if you feel like your couple could benefit from increasing your sensual and intimate connection. I would be happy to talk further and see if it might be beneficial for your couple.