“Get your facts first, ….then you can distort them as you please.”- Mark Twain
A great quote from the great social humorist and writer Mark Twain. Using a little humor and not taking yourself too seriously at times can be a very powerful self preservation strategy for your mental health.
People get stuck in their attempts to prove themselves right and their partner wrong when fighting especially in couples situations. This in the end leads to resentments and feelings of being judged, undervalued, disrespected and over all unloved.
How about hanging up the usual factual argument by refusing to engage in the familiar back and forth dance that is so familiar? Learn to manage your own frustration with a little calm humor and pick your battles wisely. Please remember If you are in an emotionally manipulative or abusive relationship most general relationship strategies, may not apply.
I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Individual counselor, let me know if I can help you or your couple change your usual dance.
Call me at your convenience at 479-225-0055 and leave a voice message. Thank you and I look forward to hearing from you.